We are on day 9 (feels like 900) of my sons sleep journey. We started with the book at bedtime and whenever he asked, which was often, removed his crib, set up his room and he was excited. For two nights it was perfect. He just went to sleep for naps and bedtime no issues. Then the novelty wore off for him and it sunk in.
We are going in 4-6 times a night and I am exhausted and dad is slammed with work, he needs to function; we both do. What do we do about this looooong ‘go to sleep’ time?
How do I know my child is ready for kindrgarten?
My 4yo son is great at school drop off with dad but not with me. What should I do different?
When my 4yo son goes to school with his father, he walks right into the school/classroom, but when he goes to school with me, it has taken up to 30 minutes (usually like 10/15 minutes) to get him inside the classroom. He has always been more attached to me. His main reason for not wanting to go inside the classroom is because he wants to be with me. He has used the word scared, but I don’t think he’s scared in the traditional sense of the word. Thanks!
My 4yo daughter's tantrums are overwhelming me. Help!
My daughter's tantrums have become more frequent and intense (she just turned 4), and seem to be triggered by the most insignificant things: someone moved a box, or something is not in the right order, or the ponytail is bothering her. She will drop to the floor, scream, kick, and say “mama a la basura”, “don’t like you anymore”, “I want you to die”…. This can be at home or middle of the street or in any public space.
I am honestly struggling with her.
My son wants to switch schools with only 2 years left. Is that smart?
My older son is going to High School next year. My younger son (in 6th grade) does not want to stay in the same school he currently is in. Do you think I am doing the right thing giving him the opportunity to look into another option or should I just keep him where he is for the next two years of middle school?
My child isn't handling boredom well. What is the healthy thing to do?
My daughter cannot handle boredom. Not only can she not handle it, she gets mean about it and lacks the creativity to entertain herself.
I thought the problem was our minimalist toy collection so I got her a doll house, a baby doll with accessories and a whole wardrobe for said doll. It wasn't it.
She has access to art supplies, a camera, a bike, our tiny garden... not to mention we go to the park every single day.
What should I do?
My daughter has her 504 plan, now what do I do?
My mom guilt is on full power. Help!
My question is more on the mom guilt. My son will ask me, “Mami, can you play with me?” and 9/10 times I can’t either because of the baby or cooking or just getting things in the house in order. He will ask mama and 6/10 she will play with him but not as much as before. So the last two times in school when they have asked him, “what are you doing this weekend?” and he has said, “ I am going to play by myself then go to my friend's birthday party” or “ I am going to play paw patrol by myself.” Before he would always say I am going to play with mami or mama. I don’t know if this is a sign that he is not getting enough attention or if it is my mom guilt that just feels bad.
Is it not enough attention, mom guilt or normal? Help!
Do I share my child's diagnosis with them or is it better to not tell them?
As my son goes through several tests (ADHD, Ados, and who knows what’s next) he’s asking why? As of now, the only thing I’ve said to him is “we’re doing this to see if we can help you feel more comfortable and see if maybe you can get that help in therapy…” Is that the direction I should take?
If he is diagnosed with XYZ, should I not mention it to him?
My daughter does not like her teacher and doesn't want to go to school. How do I get her through this?
My daughter is having issues with her teacher. She has the same teacher that her sister had last year, and to be honest I am not a big fan, but it's gotten to the point that she keeps saying she doesn't want to go to school, she wants to switch schools, she hates her teacher etc.....I listen to her and reflect her feelings of frustration but is there anything else I can do? She is also used to being liked and loved (teachers always love her because she is the perfect angel in class) and I think she is struggling because this teacher doesn't seem to feel that way. Thoughts?
My kids do not want to spend time with their visiting grandparents. How do I handle this?
I am not sure how to handle this situation. My parents are visiting from my country. They are here for two weeks and are thrilled to spend time with my kids. My kids are not so thrilled to spend time with them as during the pandemic, my kids got used to socializing with their friends on their iPads and phones. I set screen time limits in order for my kids to spend more time with their grandparents visiting but my kids are really not enjoying it. What do you recommend I do? It is sad for me to be in the middle of this situation….
My daughter always feels cheated. What language should we be using to help her through this?
Hoping to get your perspective on fairness and equality as it seems to be a big theme with my daughter. Everything these days is about feeling upset because so and so has something that is different from hers. For example, her sister’s cup of water is more full than hers, her sister gets to ride a scooter and she has a bike, Mommy's costume came earlier than hers, it goes on and on and on sometimes with big tantrums. We have been validating her feelings around it but we want to understand why she always feels cheated somehow that what she has is not as good as someone else. Also what language should we be using to help her through this?
How do I get my 4 year old to do anything without consequences?
1. How do I get my 4 year old to do anything without consequences?
Such as “if you don’t clean up your toys they will go away, if you don’t put your shoes on you will not come to the birthday party” etc..
2. Regarding rewards, he is having a regression with using the toilet since I started potty training my little one, so I am offering him rewards for days he stays dry to encourage him to not pee his pants. Am I doing it all wrong?
What is the best way to explain to my 4yo son that he is adopted and he has two moms?
As you know my son is adopted and we do yearly visits with his biological parents. Last year we did FaceTime because of COVID but this year we will do it in person with the precautions needed for everybody to be safe of course. He is now about to be 4 and we have always spoken about adoption openly in the house as we don’t keep it a secret. I asked him if he remembered ( let’s refer to bio dad as XYZ and bio mom as ABC ) and he said, “who is XYZ and ABC?” I don’t know what wording to use for him to understand. I have told him that he grew in ABC’s tummy like his brother grew in mine but that’s about it. I get stuck on how to continue the explanation.
When my child says they're scared and won't go to bed, what's really happening?
When I put my daughter down last night we went through our typical routine but she kept asking when dad would be home from his run and when he would come kiss her goodnight. As soon as I got in the rocking chair (I sit in it until she falls asleep) she started saying "I'm scared, I'm scared" on repeat. She couldn't tell me what she was scared of just that she wanted me to lay in her bed.
Should I push my son to do more academically although he already does well?
One of my boys is extremely dedicated with his school work. My other one just wants to finish quickly to get it over with. I don’t want to compare (and never do) but the one that only dedicates very short time to school projects and homework says it is good enough for him. I don’t want to pressure him because his notes are good but I know he can do better if he dedicates more time because he has the potential. Should I leave him alone?
My 1st grader is anxious and doesn't want to go to school. Would a "worry stone" help?
His start in the new (old) big public school was not very ideal.
We got quarantined only 2 days into the new school year and when he got back after 10 days we were not allowed to walk him to the classroom anymore (only allowed in the first week). He says he is super scared to walk to his classroom by himself (it’s about 75ft from the entrance). He also says he hates 1st grade, his life, it’s so hard etc…
I started to do the body scan again to sleep and help him calm his body and I also bought him a “worry stone” he can carry in his pocket and touch when he gets anxious. What do you think?
My daughter is having a hard time fitting in with a new group of schoolmates. How should I help her?
How can I better handle my kid having a difficult time with friends in school? My daughter changed classes and the majority of her closest friends are in the other class. Before school started we talked about how good of an opportunity it would be to get to know some of the other students (girls) a bit better while still keeping old friendships. It doesn’t happen every day but she has been complaining about how it’s been hard to fit in and how the other girls seem to not like her. How should I help her?
My daughters only want to have plans with their friends and nothing with the family. How do I shift this?
My daughter wants to have play dates every weekend with her friends, which sometimes is not possible. She gets very upset and feels like doing things with the family is not "enough'. Even for my other daughter, every time we tell them we are doing something they ask "with who?" If the answer is just with us (the family) they both say they don't want to go. How do I shift this?
My teen doesn't want to have friends over. Is this normal? Also, is there a benefit to an all boys school for my teen?
My older one is 13, all honor classes and smart. He is very athletic and social but he does not like to have friends over. He had several play dates in our house before but lately (besides the amount of hw he gets) he is not interested in having over neither his school friends or soccer friends from the club he has been at for the last 5 years. Should I be concerned?
Also, is there a benefit to an all boys school?