Question
One of my boys is extremely dedicated with his school work. My other one just wants to finish quickly to get it over with. I don’t want to compare (and never do) but the one that only dedicates very short time to school projects and homework says it is good enough for him. I don’t want to pressure him because his notes are good but I know he can do better if he dedicates more time because he has the potential. Should I leave him alone?
Answer
Leave him alone - until and IF the grades drop BUT also start being curious about what he actually gives time and attention to.
Does he like sports?
Does he like video games?
Is he social and puts friendships and connections first?
If that is the case then speak to him about his interests. Play a video game with him. Go to his sports game. Invite his groups of friends over.
We are not ALL academically inclined. We have other assets to our personality. Today his video game interests may seem frivolous. In the future that interest may move him into design or tech work.
Today his interest in friendships may seem frivolous. In the future he will be the one closing deals and making connections at networking parties.
Unfortunately our culture has told us that "school" "grades" and "college" are the only ways a young person can be successful. But that is not true, those qualities of applying himself, perseverance and motivation can be practiced in more than one way.
Hope this is helpful!