I wanted to ask you how I should react when I am not in the room and one of my boys (4.5 and 7) comes to me (sometimes crying, not always) saying that his brother hurt him or did something to one of his toys? It feels tricky because I didn’t see exactly what happened, but if I don’t do or say the right thing then it is bound to happen again.
How do I handle one child feeling left out when I am with the other?
My kids are always comparing what we do for them. I try to be as fair as I can but given their ages (4 and 7) they will never get the exact same things. I have tried to explain that to them, but they probably can’t see that because they keep complaining/ comparing. Any thoughts on how I should handle that?
My 7yo and 5yo sons have nasty fights. What is the best way to handle them?
My 7yo and 5yo sons play well most of the time but continue to get into nasty fights over silly things and I see a lot of anger coming from both of them when the other does something annoying.
Should I punish the one that hits by placing them in time-out or taking away a benefit like no tv later etc?
My daughters are clashing. How can I handle it better?
Both girls play better together at ages 6 and 8 but my 8yo tends to always talk over and correct her sister constantly. My 6yo gets offended whenever her big sister corrects her.
This is where they are both clashing now as one likes to fact check everything and say "you are wrong" and the other one just falls to pieces. How can I better handle this situation with both of them?
My older son screams at his 2yo sister and she screams right back. How can I break this cycle?
The sibling relationship in my home between my son and my daughter (2yo) has become unbearable. My son doesn’t want his sister near him but when she is playing or doing something else he goes and bothers her, screams at her - so naturally she “fights back” and screams at the top of her lungs. Help! I don’t know how to break this cycle…
My mom guilt is on full power. Help!
My question is more on the mom guilt. My son will ask me, “Mami, can you play with me?” and 9/10 times I can’t either because of the baby or cooking or just getting things in the house in order. He will ask mama and 6/10 she will play with him but not as much as before. So the last two times in school when they have asked him, “what are you doing this weekend?” and he has said, “ I am going to play by myself then go to my friend's birthday party” or “ I am going to play paw patrol by myself.” Before he would always say I am going to play with mami or mama. I don’t know if this is a sign that he is not getting enough attention or if it is my mom guilt that just feels bad.
Is it not enough attention, mom guilt or normal? Help!
My daughter always feels cheated. What language should we be using to help her through this?
Hoping to get your perspective on fairness and equality as it seems to be a big theme with my daughter. Everything these days is about feeling upset because so and so has something that is different from hers. For example, her sister’s cup of water is more full than hers, her sister gets to ride a scooter and she has a bike, Mommy's costume came earlier than hers, it goes on and on and on sometimes with big tantrums. We have been validating her feelings around it but we want to understand why she always feels cheated somehow that what she has is not as good as someone else. Also what language should we be using to help her through this?
How do I get my 4 year old to do anything without consequences?
1. How do I get my 4 year old to do anything without consequences?
Such as “if you don’t clean up your toys they will go away, if you don’t put your shoes on you will not come to the birthday party” etc..
2. Regarding rewards, he is having a regression with using the toilet since I started potty training my little one, so I am offering him rewards for days he stays dry to encourage him to not pee his pants. Am I doing it all wrong?
My almost 8yo is having daily meltdowns and fighting with her 10yo sister. Help!
I really need guidance with my almost 8 year old daughter. She is so sweet, sensitive and super funny, but I’m noticing her resilience is waaaay down. She and her older sister (who’s 10) argue almost daily, and her response is tears (the massive meltdown version) and/or hitting her. She will not do basic things independently, like use the bathroom, brush teeth, make bed.