#consequences

My son refuses to practice his piano. How do I help him?

In yesterday's call one of the questions had to do with not wanting to do a piano recital. This also happened to my son recently. The difference here is that from the first time I asked him if he wanted to do the recital he said NO.
I asked why and it was because he felt scared to perform in front of so many people, that he would feel embarrassed.
Another thing that worries me is that he doesn’t like to practice. He just goes to class, which he enjoys, and seems to memorize and remember what they teach him in half an hour once a week without ever practicing.

My almost 4yo had an epic tantrum. What could I have done better?

Today my almost 4-year-old had an epic tantrum at a store and although I was able to be calm and did not care about the looks I got from everyone around me, I was exhausted after his tantrum.
At the end he fell asleep at home exhausted from his tantrum and I am thinking ..
What could I have done better?
Should I have bought the toy?

How do I get my 4 year old to do anything without consequences?

1. How do I get my 4 year old to do anything without consequences?
Such as “if you don’t clean up your toys they will go away, if you don’t put your shoes on you will not come to the birthday party” etc..

2. Regarding rewards, he is having a regression with using the toilet since I started potty training my little one, so I am offering him rewards for days he stays dry to encourage him to not pee his pants. Am I doing it all wrong?

How can I teach my son to prioritize academics the way he prioritizes sports?

One of my kids is extremely responsible and dedicated to school work. The other one is not but I am leaving him alone because his grades are good and he is social and active with sports. But what if, in the future, his grades drop because he prioritizes his soccer and social life above academics? He is a key player and star of his team and works so hard at it that he got promoted to be in a higher level and a more competitive team. What is the appropriate consequence, besides the bad grade, in this situation?