#challengingbehavior

How can I best handle my son's push back and resistance?

My son is resisting so much. I think we are doing a good job of understanding that this is not him calculating this but it’s an override in his brain, and are working hard to offer an option for him so it feels less like a demand and more autonomous but we are still met with a kiddo that simply WILL NOT. He just can’t seem to redirect away from his idea even if I give options of now or in 5 minutes or similar. What to do? Let him play with dirty teeth in his PJ’s all day?

I am having a hard time communicating with my 6yo son. Help!

I am having a very hard time with my 6yo son. As soon as he sees me he looks disappointed, gets angry with me, talks to me in a bad manner, starts acting up, and doing things that he knows he is not supposed to do. His brother tells me that he doesn’t do that with dad and at his house he does what he is told. I have had a lot of stress at work and with personal matters so I struggle sometimes to stay in the moment and be as fun as dad is. I try to talk to him and have patience but it gets to a point where I explode because he is just not listening to me and keeps escalating the situation. I tell him to stop several times, his brother does too and he keeps going.
Please remind me when he talks to me in a mad manner or screams at me what is the best way to handle.

My 7yo and 5yo sons have nasty fights. What is the best way to handle them?

My 7yo and 5yo sons play well most of the time but continue to get into nasty fights over silly things and I see a lot of anger coming from both of them when the other does something annoying.
Should I punish the one that hits by placing them in time-out or taking away a benefit like no tv later etc?

My 3.5yo's anger is big and she's hitting. How do I handle this?

My 3.5 yo daughter is a very determined, assertive leader. Very different from my son. Slowly I’m learning to channel that big girl energy. However, I get really annoyed (maybe even triggered) with her anger. She feels it in her whole body, makes faces, her body gets stiff, etc. Lately she has been hitting us with whatever object or her hand…hard.

My son is disrupting the class and it's becoming an issue. How do we manage this?

Today my husband got this message from the homework club teacher:
“I'm having difficulties with your son in the homework club. He's very smart, works quickly and is an amazing reader. The issue is that he's loud, silly and constantly distracting the students. The kids in my class have asked me to make him stop talking because they can't focus.”
Would you have advice as to what to say to our son and the teacher?

School drop off has become very difficult. What do we do?

My 5.75yo daughter has started to develop some really big separation anxiety since returning from winter break. She has experienced a couple of transitions with a new nanny, and I went out of town last weekend. But now I am back and today was 25 minutes of crying at school for my goodbye. Each day seems worse and worse. What do we do?

My almost 6yo is talking back and saying "no" a lot. Help!

My oldest, about to turn 6, is getting really loud with us. A lot of fresh, back talk, a lot of ‘no’ , whining, etc...
I know it is normal, and we are remaining consistent and calm the best we can. But I am wondering if there are any books on “talking back”. It is difficult to explain and I am wondering if some stories would help. Ideas!?

My 13yo has become very challenging. How do I discipline them?

My 13 yo has been very challenging at home and at school.  When he does not show appropriate behavior, I start to put restrictions on the phone/take away the phone.  However, I feel like this is being done daily to the point sometimes he says he doesn’t care (but really he does). 

Any suggestions ?

We just moved abroad and our things have not arrived. My kids are restless and irritable. How can I manage their big feelings?

We made it to the UK but our goods have not so we have started our life here with a very minimalistic setup made of basic rental furniture but none of our personal things (including toys and books!!!). My son and daughter have been very restless, complaining about everything and struggling at times to get used to their new (boring?) life with none of the things they need to feel at home (except us parents). I have obviously bought a few new toys and books but it's still not their things... School starts on Sept 8th and by then it will have been more than 3 months without school or summer camp. Help?!?

My son has a potty accident every day at school. What can we do?

He has had a potty accident at school every day. He is terrified of someone hearing him or seeing him ask to go to the bathroom so instead he just pees himself and then tries to carry on. We have tried to problem solve this with him. He has extra clothes, a special hand signal from his teacher as a reminder but still he is paralyzed with fear. He has also been very rigid, anxious and combative with his teacher and disruptive in the class. He refuses to participate in lessons. Today he was separated from the group after throwing an object at her.
What else can we do?