#impulsecontrol

 Is there a challenging developmental transition that some kids go through around 3-4? 

s there a challenging developmental transition that some kids go through around 3-4?  My son, who is 4, has been a relatively easy child, but it seems that tantrums have picked up over the last few months.  I think by this age many kids are starting to move on from toddler tantrums, but it feels harder for us now. Interested in your thoughts and any pointers on how to navigate this period. 

My 5yo has zero impulse control and can be aggressive. How can I help them?

I would love to get your input regarding some behavior of my almost 5 year old boy. He can be very physically aggressive when playing and is showing no impulse control at all. The tantrums can be a lot. I need guidence.

Our almost 6yo is lying, breaking things and running away. I am terrified. What do I do?

Our almost 6yo is incredibly vivacious, social, happy, energetic, independent, constantly moving, demands attention and wants to be first for everything. He runs away in beaches, malls, parks, leaving me screaming at him to stop (he won’t) and then I have to run after him leaving his brother running behind me saying 'I abandoned him'. It’s nuts. I’d rather stay home. Why is this happening and how can we help him trust us and say the truth, listen and not run away?

I am having very difficult mornings with my child. How do I make this better for us?

I feel like I am losing my cool with my child during the morning routine in particular . In the past, I’ve mentioned my child’s difficulty following instructions, transitioning, inattentiveness etc...
Our morning routines have been the same with small tweaks for years. I have been very regimented and routine oriented. This school year, kindergarten, in particular, is a major issue with getting ready. We try and problem solve together and we come up with good plans, but they are short lived. I know she probably can’t help it, and I want to support her and not be mad!  How do i do this?

My almost 4yo had an epic tantrum. What could I have done better?

Today my almost 4-year-old had an epic tantrum at a store and although I was able to be calm and did not care about the looks I got from everyone around me, I was exhausted after his tantrum.
At the end he fell asleep at home exhausted from his tantrum and I am thinking ..
What could I have done better?
Should I have bought the toy?

How do I know if I am being too harsh or too lenient?

Yesterday, I took the three kids to the movies and to a park.  Before we left, my daughter grabbed her socks and I told her, she didn’t need socks because I was going to have them wear water shoes in case the sprinklers were on at the park and she wanted to get wet. She said she wanted to wear her regular shoes because she didn’t want to get wet.  I asked if she was sure and she told me yes. Once at the park, she eventually began leaping through the sprinklers, telling me she wasn’t getting her shoes wet, only her clothes, which was not the case.  Her shoes were getting wet. 

How do you help your kid when they are doing their best but it’s not enough?

My son has had a rough few days at nature school this week with impulse control and focus. He has been separated from the group a few times to try and calm his wiggles and lost privileges because of his behavior. Sometimes he just can’t sit, stay, listen, or complete a task. His brain just seems to override occasionally and I totally get it.

My older son screams at his 2yo sister and she screams right back. How can I break this cycle?

The sibling relationship in my home between my son and my daughter (2yo) has become unbearable. My son doesn’t want his sister near him but when she is playing or doing something else he goes and bothers her, screams at her - so naturally she “fights back” and screams at the top of her lungs. Help! I don’t know how to break this cycle…

My 4yo loses control when he doesn't get his way. Is this normal? How do I manage this?

My 4yo son gets set off when he doesn’t have control, or rather, when he has something in his head (ie I want to play the game this way, or I want to be first in line), and then it doesn’t work out that way. He reacts before he thinks, and that sometimes results in a tantrum, throwing something, or hitting.
How can we help him slow down, process what’s going on, then react? How can we get him to express his thoughts in words, more calmly?