#meltdowns

My toddler is inconsolable if I am not home after school. How can we help her?

Apparently my soon to be 3yo daughter is very attached to me. When she comes home from preschool or from the park with the nanny, she is looking for me and if I am not home or at work, she gets very upset and cries. My husband and the nanny say that my daughter and I were too close when she was a newborn, that it was just me and her for 24hrs and now this is the price we pay, and she is “suffering” all the consequences of how I was with her.
Do you have insight into what could have caused this recent habit of her crying for me more often than before and not letting other caregivers calm her down?

My almost 8yo is having daily meltdowns and fighting with her 10yo sister. Help!

I really need guidance with my almost 8 year old daughter. She is so sweet, sensitive and super funny, but I’m noticing her resilience is waaaay down. She and her older sister (who’s 10) argue almost daily, and her response is tears (the massive meltdown version) and/or hitting her. She will not do basic things independently, like use the bathroom, brush teeth, make bed.