Most parents feel pressured to have well-behaved children. The pressure comes from well-meaning family, teachers, and judgmental stares from strangers.
Emotional intelligence is a child’s ability to perceive, understand, and effectively manage their own feelings; to read subtle cues; and relate empathically to the feelings of others.
- Helping sibling with changes in pregnant
- How to handle a curious children and their questions
- Toddlers who notice/use crying to connect with mom, how to handle it?'
- How to handle the potty jokes and "disrespectful" answers of the school age child
- Twins! and how to handle them
- Managing and explaining to child how you can have more than one feeling at a time
- How to help/manage/guide a child when they are overpowered
- How to be careful not to make a child anxious about being clean/neat
- Bath time denial
- Helping older children deal with new sibling rivalry
- How to handle low self-esteem in a kindergartner
- Managing sharing between toddlers & preschoolers
- How to stop negotiating with a toddler/preschooler
- Child will only fight and not listen to mommy, now what?
- Transitioning from vacation to real life
- Talking to young children about death
- When a child doesn't like a group activity (music class)
- 8 month old disrupted sleep- what to do?
- What is fast food parenting?
- What to do when a child is overly friendly with family or family friends?
- Struggling getting out in the morning with a 1st grader
- 17 month old wakes up to play, now what?
- How to help children "defend" themselves at school
- Lying and stealing in 1st graders
- How to deal child missing grandparents/friends
- Whether we kiss or not kiss children
- Handling Fear with 5 yr. olds after seeing a scary image
- Handling a kindergartner when they deny going to school
- Loosing and how to help children understand how to lose games/sports
- Weaning from breastfeeding
- How to start the Potty Process
- Handling work, play-dates, and scheduling
- Speaking about race and difference in culture to a 4 year old
- How to be positive when disciplining
- How to handle a child's lack of motivation for going back to Kindergarten
- Handling hitting
- Speaking and handling a traumatic experience (observing a near death experience of drowning)
- Twins and how they develop differently
- Transitioning back to school
- Transitions into kindergarten
- What to do when your child's tells you that they hate school
- How to handle a child's screaming instead of speaking
- Changing the nap time for 18 month old
- Getting your child out of the bed after changing
- Dealing with sleep after children being sick
- Wakeful nights
- School choices
- Preparing them for the new school year
- How to help your child build emotional intelligence
- Zika on children
- The point of feelings
- Regret | Loss | Disappointment
- Internal motivation
- Clean up
Q & A from Members
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Blog & Vlog
A 5th grader asks if it's normal to feel something bad every day. In this video Lina answers their question and gives recommendations.
One of the most popular questions is "how do I deal with my picky eater?" This video gives you quick tips to help your child eat.
I cringed as my husband told my daughter that he would no longer help her order the next time we went to a restaurant. We have a hard and clean rule of not disagreeing in front of the children when one of us is setting a boundary, but in this situation I could not hold my tongue. I had never thought about it, but we disagreed about whether or not our children should order their own food at a restaurant.
I watched my daughter’s eyes swell up with tears and thought, “here it is, here is the day I have been dreading.” We spoke while I brushed her hair about an incident she had in her classroom. The students in her class have begun to point out how intelligent she is. They react to her with jokes spiced with sarcasm saying, “What’s the magic recipe for getting all the answers right?” This is not bullying. These are just kids reacting, noticing, moving through the markers of development. The ones speaking to her this way are defending themselves from embarrassment and fear of my daughter judging their mistakes or their perceived lack of knowledge compared to her. My daughter has begun to balance with how to be her authentic self: intelligent, curious, an avid reader and friend, with her need to remain in relationship with those around her.
Little people are just like big people. In this moment, my child was acting like a grown-up starting a new job. He was experiencing a kindergarten version of adult concerns: “What are these people going to be like? Will I like my boss? Am I going to be able to do the work?” In those moments it is important to take a moment and hold them and tell them that it is normal to be scared. Take that opportunity to
As a parenting and child development expert, I generally know how to handle these moments of rivalry, but as a parent I understand how excruciating and off putting they can feel. Here are some things to keep in mind the next time your siblings fight.
The most important point: if no one is bleeding,
The statistics and multiple negative outcomes of children that are disciplined with corporal punishment are well known to those who work with children. Children’s Trends, a research group, found that corporal punishment increases negative outcomes in adolescence like low academic achievement, alcohol and drug use, antisocial behavior. They also found that the older the age of the child, the greater the negative outcomes. So why do 70% of parents in the United States believe in spanking?