Most parents feel pressured to have well-behaved children. The pressure comes from well-meaning family, teachers, and judgmental stares from strangers.
Emotional intelligence is a child’s ability to perceive, understand, and effectively manage their own feelings; to read subtle cues; and relate empathically to the feelings of others.
How to help a child find their own way around their sense of self
Managing a child's obsessive responses - getting stuck or hyper focus on one idea
How to help a child manage feeling guilty
Managing and helping a child manage a potty accident
Handling teasing between siblings
Managing the toddler tantrum
How to advocate for your child with school and teacher
Setting a clear boundary with a school age child when they are debating you and being disrespectful
Managing twins - when they compare what is happening at school different for them (through the lens of a holiday show)
Helping a toddler manage feelings of guilt
How to manage a jealous toddler
Helping a school age child understand their emotions
How to help a 7 year old deal with their "leader" friend and setting boundaries
How to do conflict resolution with a school age child
Helping a 2 year old who is growing up hearing two languages
How to help a goal oriented one year old follow a rule
Helping a toddler follow the rules even when you're not around and/or looking
Helping a toddler eat different snacks than their friends
Managing one parent traveling often with school age children
What to do when your child confronts you about a boundary you've set
How to respond when a child tells you someone in the family called them fat
How to help a toddler move to "big child" bed
Managing your one own temper as a parent
Helping your child deal with frustration in relationship
Helping a toddler learn to manage a new baby
How to explain to a 1st grader how to handle difficult interactions with their friends
How many times most you repeat a prompt to a toddler until they follow direction
A twelve year old is melting done once a month what may be going on
How do you help a child make decision
How to help young siblings play together without hurting each other
How to manage young children when parents separate
Managing the "sassy" attitude of a 1st grader
What to do when we get into a habit of screaming to our children
How to help a toddler eat?
If your child is bilingual do you force them to speak to you?
Helping children with their homework responsibility and the frustration around them?
How to help children through the new process of divorce?
Managing and handling tantrums in the 3 year old twins
How to get rid of the pacifier?
13 month old showing fear and crying when he is not with a caregiver
3.5-4 y.o. rejecting nanny and parents wants to know what to do
How important is school for a three year old?
Getting a school age child to study for tests
How to handle a kindergartener's melt down in the car?
What do you do if your 2nd grader is having a hard time with a friend?
Managing young siblings when they fight
Managing a toddler that tantrums when they don't want to transition
Dealing with revenge dealt to a parent by a 5 year old
How to help a 5 year old girl not get stuck thinking that Beautiful is all she can be
Do toddler need consequences?
How to help a school age child with toileting accidents?
Managing sick children and sibling's feeling like the sick sibling is getting special treatment
Is it true that restricting foods like sugar, is bad for children and their eating?
Helping a 2 year old stop biting the classroom
If you're a single mother by choice, how do you handle the "what's a daddy?" question for a 3 year old
Managing overly angry responses from a 5 year old
Managing your teacher when your child is the "disruptive one"
Q & A from Members
He doesn't want to go to camp. Now what?
A smartwatch for kids? Good or bad?
Can I ever just reward them with all of the chocolate?
How do I respond to "Is Grandpa gonna be okay?"
Can I PLEASE, impose consequences? Pretty PLEASE?
Am I wrong for not following up on all of my child's homework?
Do children masturbate?
Do under 6 year-olds play sexually together?
Blog & Vlog
I have lost track of how many times I have cried and simultaneously been inspired due to the events at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School, in Parkland, FL. The school is close to home. I live in Miami. That morning I knew that many parents would be reaching out to me wondering how to best help their children.
A lot of families have the daily struggle of getting homework done. In this video you can get a quick and easy tip on making homework a productive event and not a damaging battle.
Find yourself in the parenting section of the bookstore frustrated and lost? Ever wonder how what you read can translate to your daily life as a parent? In this video you can get the top reason why those parenting books are failing you.
A 5th grader asks if it's normal to feel something bad every day. In this video Lina answers their question and gives recommendations.
One of the most popular questions is "how do I deal with my picky eater?" This video gives you quick tips to help your child eat.
I cringed as my husband told my daughter that he would no longer help her order the next time we went to a restaurant. We have a hard and clean rule of not disagreeing in front of the children when one of us is setting a boundary, but in this situation I could not hold my tongue. I had never thought about it, but we disagreed about whether or not our children should order their own food at a restaurant.
I watched my daughter’s eyes swell up with tears and thought, “here it is, here is the day I have been dreading.” We spoke while I brushed her hair about an incident she had in her classroom. The students in her class have begun to point out how intelligent she is. They react to her with jokes spiced with sarcasm saying, “What’s the magic recipe for getting all the answers right?” This is not bullying. These are just kids reacting, noticing, moving through the markers of development. The ones speaking to her this way are defending themselves from embarrassment and fear of my daughter judging their mistakes or their perceived lack of knowledge compared to her. My daughter has begun to balance with how to be her authentic self: intelligent, curious, an avid reader and friend, with her need to remain in relationship with those around her.
Little people are just like big people. In this moment, my child was acting like a grown-up starting a new job. He was experiencing a kindergarten version of adult concerns: “What are these people going to be like? Will I like my boss? Am I going to be able to do the work?” In those moments it is important to take a moment and hold them and tell them that it is normal to be scared. Take that opportunity to
As a parenting and child development expert, I generally know how to handle these moments of rivalry, but as a parent I understand how excruciating and off putting they can feel. Here are some things to keep in mind the next time your siblings fight.
The most important point: if no one is bleeding,
The statistics and multiple negative outcomes of children that are disciplined with corporal punishment are well known to those who work with children. Children’s Trends, a research group, found that corporal punishment increases negative outcomes in adolescence like low academic achievement, alcohol and drug use, antisocial behavior. They also found that the older the age of the child, the greater the negative outcomes. So why do 70% of parents in the United States believe in spanking?