My daughter is a soccer player. She began while only four years old, and she is still at it now. It has been breathtaking to watch her take on something that she loves and works at strenuously. However, while I am out at the games I get distracted at times by what I see on the spectator side. I understand the mood swings of the parents and family members. A sporting event is both socially and emotionally triggering, but as parents it is important to keep our children front of mind even while in the stands. The following are suggestions on how you can enjoy the game and also parent your athlete:
Our culture is cluttered with messages on how to be male or female. Our children look to us, their parents, and to the world around them to make sense of how to express gender. Are you sure that you are not perpetuating old fashion ideas and stereotypes around gender? Not sure? Take a look a this quick video for one easy tip to stop!
As a mental health professional, I am alarmed that our government is dividing families. The Department of Homeland Security (DHS) is currently separating migrant children from their parents at the border and reneging on their past promises of safety to DACA recipients. These are unnecessary policies that will cause more trauma to already traumatized children and families seeking refuge in the U.S. We need this to change.
Most parents fear their children could fall in the trap of misusing drugs and alcohol. This video helps you find answers to avoiding this fate.
#FidgetToys are all the rage right now- Why? How do they help your child? Is it a distraction or a benefit for the classroom?
It was summer and I sat on the floor leaning on the edge of my newborn daughter’s crib in tears. From the outside I had everything a new mom could wish for, a loving husband, a cooperative extended family, and presents from near and far welcoming our daughter into our world. On the floor of her bedroom none of that mattered, I was in pain
Many parents and teachers use Time Out as a way to discipline children. Are you certain that you are using it correctly?
I have been thinking about the time I spend with couples as their therapist. It is compelling to sit in a couple’s therapy session and witness how love can make a lot of us feel completely out of control. I see couples fight furiously and notice how each partner is completely oblivious to the fact that it’s not the money or the child that’s the issue. What they are really fighting about involves three very simple questions, Do you love me? Will you stay with me? How can I be sure that you won’t hurt me? When I witness this in a session I have the wonderful and sometimes energizing opportunity of letting them know that they are fighting for love.
The first two months of the year are always interesting to be a therapist. It is the time when everyone is taking a look at themselves and attempting to see things in a new way and/or trying to change something about themselves, which is what I do with others on a year round basis. My twitter feed was chock full of articles and messages about new this, resolve that, change now, and it fills me with both joy and frustration. The joy comes from feeling that everyone is out trying to get closer to their authenticity, which is my goal as a therapist, to assist others in finding their truest self. I also feel frustration because come February most of those hopeful souls will have already gotten back to old patterns and away from the stream of change and resolution. In the spirit of lasting change, here are my three steps on how you can make sure to stick to keeping those resolutions.
At the end of the day, the crowd broke into an uproar when we heard Oprah Winfrey proclaim, "Hi, everybody!" We had all been anxiously awaiting the Q&A of Oprah with Michelle Obama, the hostess of our summit.
Michelle Obama spoke of many things: self-value, self-worth, defining ourselves and handling criticism. She described how she chose her priorities and what she values most. But of all she described and shared, one line stuck with me. After Oprah asked her what she would be leaving the White House most proud of, she stated