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Let’s talk about consequences. One of the most frequent questions parents ask me in workshops and consultations is what is the consequence to a child’s challenging behavior. Most ask that question because they have an inappropriate goal. They've been told that the right goal is for your child to feel bad when they're not listening or when they've made a mistake. I want you to wonder: When was the last time that you learned anything while feeling bad?
I’m crying again. I am watching another episode of a competition show, but it's not the show that makes me weep. My crying is a ritual that has developed since the quarantine began in early March. Sunday has become my day to allow my feelings to flow freely without logic. I cry freely without explanation. I let tears flow because it is what my body, my mind, and my psyche need. I try not to put a story to them. I remind myself of what I say in so many of my workshops and parenting trainings: our feelings have no logic. Do not judge them. Do not tame them.
