If you're bribing & rewarding your children, this is WHY it's not working (VIDEO)

If you're bribing & rewarding your children, this is WHY it's not working (VIDEO)

As parents we sometimes find ourselves in a never-ending cycle of conflict, screaming, rewarding and back to square one. If you continue to bribe and reward your children you may risk them not understanding empathy, responsibility and kindness. Watch this video to understand what and why is happening?

Why Parenting Books Fail You (VIDEO)

Why Parenting Books Fail You (VIDEO)

Find yourself in the parenting section of the bookstore frustrated and lost?  Ever wonder how what you read can translate to your daily life as a parent?  In this video you can get the top reason why those parenting books are failing you.

When Having a Baby Hurts: My Truth About My Postpartum Depression

When Having a Baby Hurts: My Truth About My Postpartum Depression

It was summer and I sat on the floor leaning on the edge of my newborn daughter’s crib in tears.  From the outside I had everything a new mom could wish for, a loving husband, a cooperative extended family, and presents from near and far welcoming our daughter into our world.  On the floor of her bedroom none of that mattered, I was in pain

How to be Certain They Love You

How to be Certain They Love You

I have been thinking about the time I spend with couples as their therapist.  It is compelling to sit in a couple’s therapy session and witness how love can make a lot of us feel completely out of control.  I see couples fight furiously and notice how each partner is completely oblivious to the fact that it’s not the money or the child that’s the issue.  What they are really fighting about involves three very simple questions, Do you love me?  Will you stay with me?  How can I be sure that you won’t hurt me? When I witness this in a session I have the wonderful and sometimes energizing opportunity of letting them know that they are fighting for love.

Here's Why You Couldn't Keep That New Year's Resolution

Here's Why You Couldn't Keep That New Year's Resolution

The first two months of the year are always interesting to be a therapist.  It is the time when everyone is taking a look at themselves and attempting to see things in a new way and/or trying to change something about themselves, which is what I do with others on a year round basis.  My twitter feed was chock full of articles and messages about new this, resolve that, change now, and it fills me with both joy and frustration.  The joy comes from feeling that everyone is out trying to get closer to their authenticity, which is my goal as a therapist, to assist others in finding their truest self.  I also feel frustration because come February most of those hopeful souls will have already gotten back to old patterns and away from the stream of change and resolution.  In the spirit of lasting change, here are my three steps on how you can make sure to stick to keeping those resolutions.