Attachment

How to be Certain They Love You

How to be Certain They Love You

I have been thinking about the time I spend with couples as their therapist.  It is compelling to sit in a couple’s therapy session and witness how love can make a lot of us feel completely out of control.  I see couples fight furiously and notice how each partner is completely oblivious to the fact that it’s not the money or the child that’s the issue.  What they are really fighting about involves three very simple questions, Do you love me?  Will you stay with me?  How can I be sure that you won’t hurt me? When I witness this in a session I have the wonderful and sometimes energizing opportunity of letting them know that they are fighting for love.

What You and First Lady Michelle Obama Share When it Comes to Parenting

What You and First Lady Michelle Obama Share When it  Comes to Parenting

At the end of the day, the crowd broke into an uproar when we heard Oprah Winfrey proclaim, "Hi, everybody!"  We had all been anxiously awaiting the Q&A of Oprah with Michelle Obama, the hostess of our summit.

Michelle Obama spoke of many things:  self-value, self-worth, defining ourselves and handling criticism.  She described how she chose her priorities and what she values most.  But of all she described and shared, one line stuck with me. After Oprah asked her  what she would be leaving the White House most proud of, she stated