Question
Help! I need your guidance with today’s meltdown! Today while doing homework, my 5yo daughter got really angry when I told her the answer to her math problem was wrong and I was trying to explain why. She did not want to hear the right answer and started screaming that I was wrong, crumpled her paper lesson and threw the pencil in my direction. I tried to keep myself calm and asked her to calm down but she was really hysterical and did not want to listen. When I told her that she would not get the markers that her grandma bought her because of her behavior, she immediately asked me to forgive her. I said that I would forgive her but she did not deserve the markers today. I also told her no TV for the day as a “penalty”.
Every time she behaves like that, daddy says that he is going to write to her teacher to talk about her behavior and she gets a little bit better bc she doesn't like to disappoint her teacher but I guess this is not the best way to handle this either.
With all that, she wanted to stop doing her homework but I insisted on continuing (and we switched to the computer homework since she could do it by herself without my help).
Can you guide me on what is the best way to handle these meltdowns next time this happens? Thanks
Answer
Here's a great book on mistakes that you can buy and read with her to get this topic spoken about: