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How do I help a son who gets bored and stuck and another who asks for help with things they know how to do?

My son has a hard time playing by himself and coming up with ways to entertain himself, he says he is bored, he says he doesn’t know what to do, I give him options and he doesn’t want any of them and just gets upset saying he doesn’t know what to do.
My other son has always been super independent and a “I do it myself!” type of kid since he was a baby, but for some time now he has been asking me to do things for him, dressing him, putting on his shoes, washing his teeth.. things he knows how to do himself but he says he WANTS me to do it.
How concerned should I be about this?
Should I stop helping him even if he gets upset?