Question
Question for you regarding my daughter’s big feelings and how to ask her to more accurately represent her physical pain so I know what to do.
I think part of her big reaction to everything is her seeking connection (I want to say attention but I won’t! ha!) so I waver between taking it at face value and not believing her, then feeling extreme guilt when the issue/pain was legit and I was dismissive. It’s confusing for me when her reaction to a paper cut is as big as a broken bone.
I feel like she takes advantage of situations to stay home and miss school and sports. So part of me wants to blow it off. And yet - I want her to feel seen and heard and want to validate her feelings….
Since I personally don’t feel this big (or was conditioned/told not to) I don’t know what the right thing to do is.
Help! Thank you!
Answer
It is very important not to judge emotion especially when it is attached to something physical. If it's a physical and emotional situation ALWAYS rule out the medical.
Just take her to the doctor and rule it out first. Let the doctor tell you what is wrong.
Yes, if you have a high pain tolerance then your version of pain is not accurate.