Question
We are entering the sex talk except she doesn’t want to hear about it so I just follow her lead.
I let go but asked her to come to me when she was ready and if she had any questions. Today she was in her room and started to make pleasure noises. When I asked about it, she said: the boys from my school make it. So I explained it wasn’t appropriate and she asked why so I explained a bit and used masturbation as an example. I touched on the sex subject but she didn’t want to hear it so I let go again.
Was the masturbation talk too much? (it was the first time I gave it a name).
Do I just keep following her lead about when to talk about sex? Thank you!!!!
Answer
Here is a podcast on the pornography talk...THE person being interviewed tends to have a bias that pornography is ALL bad, make sure to take what you like and leave the rest. I just think they do a great job at thinking about how to discuss safety and pornography.
Try to leave the experts values out of your thought process:
https://draliza.com/.../ep-82-the-porn-episode.../
Here is what the pediatricians say about talking to kids about sex:
https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/gradeschool/puberty/Pages/Talking-to-Your-Child-About-Sex.aspx?fbclid=IwAR038eEiG2mmjwfgZdqcOblqDosBh5-QoZ6X4EGHdPvmDdP79c5D0bRcvfc