Question
I am concerned about my son's experience in his martial arts class. He is 5 years old and just recently joined the class but one of the teachers often yells at him which has caused my son to lose motivation. Despite my husband's belief that sports demand strict discipline, I think it's crucial to address this behavior and ensure my son feels comfortable and supported in his classes. I shared my concerns with another mom and she said she had the same experience with that teacher and she went and complained to the owner of the school about that. What is the middle ground in these situations? I do not want to sound like an overprotective mom but I do not feel comfortable with that teacher even if they tell me that all sports require teachers like that.
Answer
There are three musts to parenting.
1. Consistency in how we respond
2. Routine that is predictable
3. Teamwork amongst caregivers
A coach or teacher is part of your caregiving team. If this coach does not fall within your values and disciple style then this is not the setting for you and your child.
It is not a given that sports or martial arts are punitive. They are not. Find a setting that can match your needs.