I have had the luxury of spending countless hours with mothers in the work that I do. What I discover time and again is that once the women get to know one another, they choose to be compassionate, inspirational and empowering with one another. This experience contrasts with what I see in our society and a sad truth in motherhood and parenting; we judge one another. The judgment takes different forms like books, advice columns/blogs, discipline styles, and moments at the park/school. The media likes to call it “mommy wars.”
I have something radical to say and I wish you could hear me because if you were in front of me I would be screaming it: the world is safe. The world has always been safe. Yes, children die, famine exists, natural disasters kill thousands, and we murder one another through war, domestic violence, and hate. But the world is safe. For those of you who don’t believe the world is safe, why are you lying to your children? I know that a deep part of you knows that the world is safe, but your life experience has fooled you into believing that it is not. So how do we get back to the purity of the early years before your mother may or may not have responded to you in a way that brought the first doubt of your safety?